How can my husband help during pregnancy?

How can my husband help during pregnancy?
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Pregnant ladies may experience mental and physical changes as a result of hormonal fluctuations during pregnancy. However, each pregnancy is unique. It's possible for your partner to have many symptoms or none at all.

Symptoms of pregnancy during the first trimester

Morning sickness is a typical pregnancy symptom that can appear anywhere between week four and week seven. Notwithstanding the name, it can occur day or night.

You could assist your partner in determining what, if anything, triggers their illness—such as a specific meal, aroma, or time of day. Water consumption and small, frequent meals can also be beneficial. Additionally, there is some evidence that ginger-containing foods and beverages may be beneficial; however, before consuming any supplements, consult a pharmacist.

What can you do as a partner to support your pregnant partner?

There are many ways you as a husband can help your pregnant wife. Below are some ideas.

  • Assist your spouse with housework.
  • If you smoke, you can give it up or refrain from smoking in front of your spouse.
  • Join your partner to eat a healthier diet.
  • Avoid alcohol consumption when with your pregnant wife.
  • Arrange events such as going to the movies or taking walks.
  • Work out together to inspire her to maintain her fitness.
  • Carry things that are too heavy for her as her back will be under strain.
  • Give your partner a break if you have other kids by taking them on a day trip or for a walk.

1. Getting involved in the pregnancy: months 4 to 6

The second trimester spans the months of 4 to 6. Now that you can see your partner's baby bulge more clearly, the pregnancy may begin to feel more real. You'll have the opportunity to form a stronger bond with your baby as they begin to move and hear.

Symptoms of pregnancy throughout the second trimester

This should be the end of the first-trimester nausea. However, the second trimester can have its unique set of complaints.

  • A higher sex drive – Your partners may see changes to their sex drive. Having sex is safe unless a doctor has advised your partner not to.
  • Headaches – These are common but if they’re very bad, your partner should see their GP. It’s safe to take paracetamol for a short time but they should not take codeine or ibuprofen unless a doctor has told them to.
  • Backache – Gentle exercise can help. Help them avoid lifting anything heavy and give them a cushion to support their back when they’re sitting down.
  • Tiredness – Encourage them to rest when they can.
  • Pain in the hips or pelvis – Sleeping with a pillow between their knees may help.
  • Constipation – Hormone changes can mean your partner finds it difficult and uncomfortable to poo. Eating lots of fiber, drinking plenty of water and gentle exercise can help.
  • Cramp – This is usually in the legs or feet. Firmly rubbing the muscle or pulling the toes up towards the ankle may help to ease the cramp.
  • Feeling faint – Get your partner to sit down or lie on their side until they feel better.
  • Swelling in the hands and feet – Make sure your partner doesn’t stand up for long periods and help them put their feet up when they’re resting.

2. Provide Emotional Support

Emotional changes are numerous during pregnancy. Your significant other's hormone levels are shifting when she becomes a mother. It can be difficult to digest. Discuss your plans to become a parent. Talk to her about your wishes for your child. As your family grows, ask yourselves what matters most to you. Discuss the things you are excited about now that the baby is here.

Throughout her pregnancy and after giving birth, keep in mind to pay attention and to be patient.

A woman's body can undergo numerous changes throughout pregnancy. She can be self-conscious about her appearance or seek validation about it. Everybody experiences sexual desire differently when pregnant. It's possible that your pregnant partner will be more or less interested in sex.

3. Bonding with your unborn baby

You're going to be a parent soon. Consider your new job and how you may best contribute to your infant's life.

You may take a little longer to develop a relationship with your child. You shouldn't be concerned about this. The reason for this could be that you are not the one experiencing physical changes while the baby develops inside you.

By feeling for kicks during pregnancy, you might develop a closer bond with your unborn child. Find out from your spouse whether you can feel her bump and if she can tell you when the baby moves.

While your baby is still in the womb, converse and sing to it. The infant can distinguish between distinct voices and will occasionally react to them.

During your ultrasound scan appointments, pay attention to your baby's heartbeat.

4. Participating in the pregnancy: Third trimester

The third trimester is the final three months of pregnancy. The moment you get to meet your child won't be far off.

symptoms of pregnancy throughout the third trimester

Your partner's bulge will continue to grow during this final trimester, and the baby will still move around a lot. At this point, mothers and expectant parents may:

  • Get breathless easily
  • Find it difficult to sleep ‒ it’s safest for them to sleep on their side
  • Generally, feel more uncomfortable

If you or your partner are concerned about any pregnancy symptoms, get in touch with the midwife. Use our pregnant symptom checklist as well.

5. Assisting your spouse

By taking on any physical labour or heavy lifting and assisting your partner in scheduling time for rest, you can make them feel more at ease. Also, you might like to:

  • Help them pack their hospital bag
  • Talk to them about any fears or worries they have about giving birth
  • Help them to make a birth plan – this can help them feel more in control
  • Think about joining a local antenatal class together
  • Plan your route to the maternity unit
  • Get your baby’s car seat ready
  • Buy the essential items for the early days after the birth together.